The Power of Positive People Skills

Let's talk about the power of positive people skills.

It is a skill that you must have you must develop. People who want to have great relationships are always working on how to build bigger, better, deeper relationships. They know how to discuss things without having it decay into a fight. Your single most important ingredient to these relationships is your ability to connect to get along.

A lot of times when we hear someone say, “I didn't get that job because it's all political.” What is really going on is a lack of connection, a lack of relationship building.

I have heard so many stories and on social media, I have seen so many things about families blowing up around the Thanksgiving table. Not looking forward to Christmas because of all the family drama fights that are happening over whether the tree is going in this corner or this corner, or are we going to put are we going to put red decorations or blue decorations on the tree or her who's coming to the house and ‘if he comes I'm not coming’, ‘if she comes I'm not coming.’

I hear this and I see this everywhere, everywhere.

How do we connect with people? The number one way to connect with people is to acknowledge, understand, agree that we are all different. We have different backgrounds, we have a different thought process, we had different people in our lives, even if we grew up in the same house, even if we grew up in the same house with the same parents, we have different we had different friends around us, maybe we read different things, maybe we approach life differently.

The point is, we're all different. We get to approach life differently. When we do that, we all have different personality types. Some of us are far more outspoken, some are more pulled back. Some of us are very laid back. Some of us want to research everything. We have all of these differences coming into these relationships. So if somebody says something that offends you, what is your first response?

Do you throw something back? Or do you sit down and process through and say, “What did this person mean by that?”

You know what the best way to find out how this person meant by what they said, ask them, ask them nicely.

Ask them to express their opinion and give them space to express that opinion. And then express your opinion, and then that person will give you space hopefully to express your opinion.

If not, are they a good friend? There are so many ways that we can connect together. And that connection piece is the number one piece that you must have for success in your relationships, that ability to connect. If someone says something to you that deeply offends you, you can go to them and say “Can we talk this through?”

Another thing that I'm hearing a lot this holiday season is I will never forgive that person, I will never forgive you. I can never forgive them that hurt me too deeply. I understand deep hurt, I get deep hurt. I don't know of anyone in my life that doesn't understand, that hasn't lived through deep hurt at some point in their lives. But forgiveness is not a gift that you give to the person you are forgiving. Forgiveness is a gift that you are giving to yourself. Forgiveness sets you free. It is saying, “I'm not holding on to that grudge anymore.”

In fact, despite everything, I love you, and because I love you, I'm going to forgive you. You're able to connect them with them on a deeper level. And let's not forget that we are not perfect human beings. None of us are. And some of us are going to all of us are going to offend others, maybe not even knowing it. Are we willing to go and ask for that forgiveness? Are we willing to set the stage for a deep relationship? I feel like everywhere I look these days, families are fracturing over things that aren't are not even important. I understand that there are a lot of things that are happening and families are fracturing over deep, deep hurts. But where does the deep hurt come from? And are we fracturing over things that are trivial? And can they be talked out? Can they be fixed?

Relationship Building takes work it takes time. It takes really listening to someone else, and hearing what is on their heart and soul and mind. It's work, relationship work. Not everyone in your life will you have a deep relationship with it won't happen. But having some deep relationships, building some connections. That's important. Don't be so quick to walk away from a relationship that you never took the time to listen to the other person.

Can they all be worked out? No, we don't live in a perfect world. But if you want success in your life and in your relationships, you have to learn how to connect and build those relationships stronger and stronger. Ask ask them questions. Three, three ways to really build those connections ask questions, ask questions.

Be willing to offer forgiveness number two, and number three, be willing to ask for forgiveness. Build deep foundation Sons ask questions. Be willing to offer forgiveness and be willing to ask for forgiveness. We're heading into a very stressful season.

The holiday season is amongst one of the most stressful times of the year. For many people, there are money problems, there are relationship issues, there are job issues. There are loneliness issues, there are grief issues, at this time of year is when my grief almost wants to wants to suffocate me, I miss family members that have gone on before me desperately. There stressful times. So adding an unforgiving heart, adding, holding on to a grudge to the mix of what is already going on, can cause an explosion that we don't need to have. build those relationships, love people, value people above all. Your journal prompt today is Who can I build a deeper relationship with? Who can I build a deeper relationship with? And then what is the first step you're going to take?

Develop your people skills. Learn how to connect. If you need help with this reach out. Let's do a DISC assessment together. It's just it's a strategic personality and Strengths Assessment. Then we learn how you grow. To grow yourself, you must first know yourself.

John Maxwell says it's a Maxwell DISC assessment. I would love to walk through this with you so that you can build deeper, bigger relationships, greater relationships, stronger relationships.

Message me the word disc. Let's talk about how you can build deeper relationships.